by Jakob Straub
Updated on January 9, 2024
Not everyone enjoys the thought of learning a new language. Are you skeptical that acquiring language skills is for you, or do you know someone who is not convinced of the benefits? We’ll show you how to persuade a language learning skeptic!
If you or someone you know is skeptic towards the idea of learning a new language, the way to persuasion follows these simple steps:
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When trying to persuade someone or even yourself to start learning a language, it’s tempting to launch straight into a rundown of the benefits of language learning – and there are many, such as improving your mental health!
Before you do that, it’s important to understand the skeptic’s position. They usually have a reason which to them appears very convincing, and if you ride in on the high horse of know-it-all polyglot, you’ll stand no chance of winning them over.
Don’t judge or belittle the skeptic and their reasons: just because they’re reluctant to learn a new language doesn’t mean they’re ignorant or lack sophistication. Reluctance can come from a perceived weakness, a bad experience, a lack of motivation, attention span, or time, financial hardship or a completely unrelated source of stress that’s preventing the skeptic from getting started. Engage the skeptic on their level and let them lay out their view first.
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Humans are both rational and emotional beings. We follow our hearts or guts more often than we think: we make an emotional decision, but justify it in retrospect with rational arguments, essentially telling ourselves a story about our ‘good reasons’.
These reasons might genuinely be good, but they could also stem from deep-rooted feelings. If those around us feel differently, they’re likely to not understand or follow our reasoning.
You won’t convince a skeptic with scientific facts on reason alone if you don’t connect with them emotionally. Ask them how they feel about foreign languages and learning a new language. Foster any emotional binding to a language and understand that feelings of aversion or dislike need not be rational and can come from fear of competition in class, test anxiety, or being shy to speak in front of strangers.
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A skeptic’s negative feelings towards learning a new language can be related to a lack of confidence or low self-esteem. Studies show that language students have a heightened self-concept compared to students not learning a new language.
Building up a skeptic’s self-image can be the confidence boost they need to get started. Remind them of other skills they have mastered and how that increased their confidence. Languages are like any other skills, they give you the warm feeling of achievement when you improve.
Even someone who’s skeptical towards learning a new language knows at least one language already. There is no reason they cannot understand another, and thus make them better at their first language as well. We also become more interesting with new skills we acquire, so what better way to convince the skeptic than to tell them they’ll be more interesting?
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In a nutshell, projection bias describes the phenomenon that people tend to assume circumstances for them will not change over time. They project their current situation into the future and see the same thing. This bias in turn can lead to underapprecion of the impact we can have on our future.
A language learning skeptic can be biased that way, saying: “I don’t need language skills now, I won’t need them in the future.” No one can know the future, of course, but even though that means we cannot prepare for all eventualities, we can prepare for what we can anticipate, which is infinitely better than not being prepared at all.
Remind the skeptic of a situation in which they could only do too little too late; the only way to avoid future regret like that is to take action now!
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But when looking to the past, it’s important to not only consider regrets the skeptic might have, but to remind them of their wins as well. They could have had success with language learning before, or have any other positive learning experience.
Help them determine what kind of learner they are. That way you can persuade them to tackle language learning in a strategic way, playing to their strengths. Do they retain vocabulary better with flash cards? Do they need to listen to a native speaker to master pronunciation? Are they the visual type, or do they need to read to retain knowledge?
Knowing your learning type makes studying more efficient and allows the learner to maximise the effect of even smaller or shorter efforts.
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There are a few persistent misconceptions when it comes to language learning which might lead a skeptic to believe that they’re fine with their current skills:
Convincing a skeptic or yourself of the benefits of language learning means charting a route to a brighter future. However, be careful not to overshoot: it can be tempting to make the goal or destination look every bit as impressive as the Instagram version of your last vacation. Painting a perfect picture will only feed the skepticism.
Instead, be honest when sketching both the way and the destination. Injecting a sense of reality doesn’t make you less persuasive, but it gives you an advantage over the dishonest sales pitch where you claim the skeptic will learn a new language with zero effort and change their life completely overnight.
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Be aware that overcoming language learning skepticism might not be a one-time thing. Self-doubt, negative thinking or loss of faith can occur while taking classes already. The skeptic has to overcome their reluctance again and again.
You can be there for them by reminding them that every learning achievement is already an improvement compared to the initial status quo. Celebrate their wins with them, remind them you’re there for them and that they’re not alone in this.
Persuade the skeptic that even with online classes, they’re not learning by themselves but receive instructions from a teacher and join others in a virtual classroom. Lingoda classes have all the benefits of learning a language together!